Guilt after miscarriage

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Justine posted this 14 March 2020

I've experienced two miscarriages now. The first was about 4 years ago and I didn't even know I was pregnant until I discovered I was losing the pregnancy (7 weeks.) The second was a year ago and I knew I was pregnant but it was also early on. I feel like I did something wrong both times but I know its not my fault. I want to try again but I feel so much guilt and responsibility from losing those two precious souls. 

How soon is too soon? How long did you wait?

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Gabby posted this 01 April 2020

I know it's difficult that it not only happened once but twice. But it is SO common, and happens to us all. It's painful and disappointing. But it really is possible to have a healthy pregnancy still! Don't give up.

Cecily posted this 01 April 2020

It's not your fault mama. I personally don't think anyone can determine how soon is too soon besides you. If you feel ready to try, you shouldn't feel guilty for doing so. 

Phoebe posted this 01 April 2020

Whatever feels right to you! I know its hard, but it isn't your fault!

Jessica posted this 10 April 2020

I'm so sorry you feel that way, but please know that it is not your fault at all! Miscarriages are so incredibly common, and they can happen for a ton of different, completely non-preventable reasons. Knowing when the right time is to try again is completely up to you. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, and always make sure you're taking time to check in on how you're feeling. Try to find someone to reach out to for support. Posting on groups like this is a great idea as well! There are so many other mamas that understand how you feel. Sending love your way!