Who "throws" the baby shower?

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Heather posted this 25 September 2019

Who is supposed to throw the baby shower? I was going to throw our own baby shower but it got to be too much with little to no support from anyone. We just cannot do it financially so I cancelled throwing our own. So frustrated and feel so unsupported.

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Freya posted this 25 September 2019

So sorry you are going through this and feel this way. I definitely do not think that the parents should throw their own baby shower, as the parents already have a lot to prepare for and a lot on their plate. I hope you find help and support soon and if you don't, please know you will be okay. We've not had support like we thought we would either.

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Kelly posted this 25 September 2019

I agree with Freya. I think the parents already have enough to prepare for and do and the expectation of throwing your own baby shower is not right. I am so sorry you are going through that.

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Tina posted this 26 September 2019

I think that usually your best friends or mom and sisters would plan your baby shower. My friends planned mine but kind of wish I had family plan it instead.

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Megan posted this 26 September 2019

What a bummer Heather! I'm so sorry! Is this your first baby?

Normally it is your close friends or family that plan it. Sometimes I had two, one from family and one at church. You could make an Amazon wish list and send out a "virtual" baby shower via social media which won't cost you anything.

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Bella posted this 26 September 2019

In my experience it's your mom, or both family's parents. OR sometimes friends or co-workers will throw a shower.

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Stacey posted this 26 September 2019

I always thought it is thrown by one of the grandparents from either side, or a family member in general, or a close friend. So sorry you've not felt much support. Sometimes I think that folks tend to forget or remember less easy about the bundle of joy we are prepping for and the time frames, while we, think about it ALL the time. I felt kind of not supported or thought about with my first pregnancy because no one had offered to throw us a baby shower until I just came out with it in communication about how it had bothered me. Then it was like everyone wanted to help.

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Katya posted this 26 September 2019

First things first, I'm so sorry you're not feeling supported. Secondly, I don't think there's a specific person who should throw the shower but it def shouldn't be you! Take care and relax mama

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Rose posted this 26 September 2019

I agree a lot with Katya and several others on here, it should not be done by you. So sorry you've felt a lack of support. I hope things turn around very soon on that!

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Jude posted this 26 September 2019

I planned mine out because I have had ideas in mind since before I ever conceived, but my mom and mother in law actually "hosted" it.

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Lauryn posted this 26 September 2019

Do you have a sister, SIL or friend that can host? All the ideas can come from you

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Norah posted this 27 September 2019

Our church had a shower after the baby was born. It was like cultural or something. Usually it was co-workers or family or friends. You should have input if you want to, no harm in that.

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Megan posted this 03 October 2019

I never designated anybody to throw my shower, but my mom and mother in law offered and took care of everything (food, games, "prizes", etc), which I was super grateful for. I don't think anybody should have the extra stress of planning their own shower because it is A LOT. I hope somebody pulls through for you because you deserve it

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Alaska posted this 03 October 2019

Usually the grandmothers-to-be are the ones that throw the baby shower.

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Dianelly posted this 03 October 2019

I'm sorry you're going through that and it's hard feeling unsupported. Throwing your own shower can be stressful and expensive Perhaps you can talk to a friend or relatives you are close with (on both sides of the family) and maybe they can come together and split the cost? You of course would give your input as to the theme and your expectations.

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Jordyn posted this 03 October 2019

The mom-to-be's mother or mother in law.

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Paislee posted this 04 October 2019

My mom hosted mine

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JoAnn posted this 04 October 2019

My mother in law threw the baby shower but I planned it how I wanted it

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Kristin posted this 08 October 2019

My mom's friends threw mine.

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Mara posted this 08 October 2019

My mother in law threw mine.

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Hannah posted this 10 October 2019

I'm sorry. Do you have any friends or coworkers who can help you out?

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Millie posted this 10 October 2019

I am sorry that you are going through this. I think throwing your own baby shower would be tough. Could you make a wish list from stores you like to send out if anyone asked for it?