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Older child regression when baby comes?

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Shannon posted this 17 January 2019

Baby is 2 months old, and my 4 year old has become a back-talking, hitting child full of attitude that never existed.  Do you think she is reacting to the new baby?  How do I get her involved and stop the bad behavior? 

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Amanda posted this 22 January 2019

Unfortunately children to get jealous. Sometimes they start acting like a baby with whining, crying, sucking fingers, etc. Try to involve your eldest more with the baby with responsibilities. Have her help you with the baby but make it fun. Praise her for her help. Let her know how much you love her. Sometimes you just have to kill the little beasts they become with kindness. At the same time, let her know that bad behavior is unacceptable. 

Megan posted this 06 February 2019

Sounds like the newness of the baby has worn off and she is looking for attention. Can you plan a date for just the two of you? Give her some time every day to just play and do whatever she wants for a little while. Reward the good, discourage the bad. Let her know what a good big sister she is!

Ashley posted this 06 February 2019

My oldest did not want a baby, and then fell in love the moment he saw him. Sometimes he loves him a little too much. However, there are moments of jealous. I have to have separate times with each one throughout the week so that they each feel special.

rania posted this 08 February 2019

It’s jealousy. My 2 yr old has started that now that I’ve had the baby. Just give her , quality time with you alone & hopefully that will calm her down a bit.

Jessica posted this 03 March 2019

Sounds like what happened with my kids. Jealously and frustration can be hard for younger kids to work through, especially with a baby sibling around. Try planning some quality time just you two, or play dates. I found that asking the elder child to help me care for baby really decreased that behavior and helped them build a bond. The oldest quickly learned how much work babies were and was able to understand that I had to take care of baby but I would always make time for them too.  

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Sara posted this 05 March 2019

That sounds like a great idea. I think I will try that when I get to that stage.

Sounds like what happened with my kids. Jealously and frustration can be hard for younger kids to work through, especially with a baby sibling around. Try planning some quality time just you two, or play dates. I found that asking the elder child to help me care for baby really decreased that behavior and helped them build a bond. The oldest quickly learned how much work babies were and was able to understand that I had to take care of baby but I would always make time for them too.  

Lynn posted this 05 March 2019

Aww poor baby yes she is getting jealous. Maybe have a day just you two and talk to her about everything . Let her know she is also her baby as well

Tiana posted this 07 March 2019

older sibling regression was very serious is my home! they want to give attention to the baby and don't really understand safety depending on age, so they become to feel left out. Mine started to act like a baby thinking it would give her the same attention, so i really had to take my time to explain my thought process to her in certain situations and i became to see change. 

Krista posted this 11 March 2019

I feel ya, mama. Older sibling regression is no walk in the park. The easy ones start acting like a baby. The hard ones get aggressive with mama or baby. My best advice is to keep the older child engaged with you and the baby. Have the older sibling "help" with baby and not only with tedious stuff. Ask for their "help" making the baby laugh. Ask for their "help" picking out stuff for baby. At the same time, make sure they're getting one-on-one with you and new things as well. It can be super overwhelming to go from getting all the attention to sharing it.



Lorie posted this 11 March 2019

It may be jealousy, I would make sure to have a special time just for the two of you.  Get a sitter for the baby.  Just like us he needs his me time also!

Shaunice posted this 13 March 2019

OMG YES! my oldest child regression to our new baby got really bad because i didn't catch it soon enough. he would back talk me, throw toys, take toys from the baby and play with them like he was teasing her. so it got a little out of control and i had to take responsibility for not balancing pout my time and attention properly and explain new changes to the house. 

Alaysia posted this 14 March 2019

I didn't see too much older child regression when our second came. I made sure to have  her really involved with holding the baby, feeding her, picking out clothes, playing in bath time or bathing them together. little things like that really helped I think.

Jessica posted this 18 March 2019

I only have one child and we plan on having a second one in the next few years so I am preparing for older sibling regression. I would think human nature in children needing the attention form parents and being use to being the only child for so long, the oldest would need to be involved pretty heavily.  Maybe we should wait longer for the second one! haha!

Sydni posted this 18 March 2019

My brother and I are 5 years apart and my mom always told me stories of my older child regression. probably why I'm so determined to have my children close to one another to avoid that! My mom said she had to get me really involved and always have talks with me and explain everything to me, that was after she tried spanking it out of me. lol

Laila posted this 19 March 2019

My oldest didn't have child regression, she was pretty excited for her little brother and I think that played a big part. she was very understanding and asked a lot of questions so I just kept informing her and letting her help or do he "big sister" duties.

Yasmin posted this 20 March 2019

older sibling regression scares me when I have my second child! I don't want them to feel left out on anything! so I am going to take you alls advice and keep them in the mix with everything!

loren posted this 21 March 2019

We never experience older child regression with new baby. she didn't act out in any way but she would get upset and pout in her room. I would ask her what was wrong and she would say " you wont let me do anything and help." so I had to explain to her safety and just talk to her. thankfully she understood and I had to let her have more responsabilities as a big sister.

Destiny posted this 21 March 2019

We don't have our second yet but a friend of mine have and they suggest how to handle older sibling regression is to take quality time with them without the baby. so  let dad keep baby and mom take the older sibling to movies, park, ice cream, or some activity. try not to make such a big change and always be in the house if the older child is always use to playing catch with daddy on Sundays. 

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