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How did you know you were done having kids?

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Jane posted this 14 June 2019

I know a lot of families of 3 that have two of one gender and then one of the other (girl, girl, boy or boy, boy, girl).  We already have one of each.  


I just wonder what made you decide to stop or made you want to have more. 

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Marci posted this 5 days ago

I feel like I just knew because I was physically done and mentally done. 

Hannah posted this 5 days ago

For us, we decided when the backseat of the car was full, that was enough. We had three. We do not regret that decision for one moment. Think of everything, do you want to get a three to five-bedroom house? Do NEED to have a minivan or SUV to seat your family? How about the cost to feed three or five teenagers (YIKES)? Clothing, schools, extra activities... Plus, now that my kids are older, I spend a lot of time running my three kids, to four different schools. I couldn't imagine adding another to the mix. If you're in doubt, don't take the plunge. We knew before baby three was born that she would be the last. 

Jane posted this 6 days ago

For us, it was hard to conceive. I knew I was done as soon as he was born because he was perfectly healthy and I didn't want to go through trying to conceive again!

Mira posted this 6 days ago

I just felt it. It is such a big decision. But I felt like o new in my gut, and my body too. 

Julie posted this 2 weeks ago

For me personally, I just felt it. My last pregnancy was full of complications with a very traumatic delivery. So I really felt like after that I was done. It wasn't worth risking my health when I already had 4 children to take care of. Also, I was getting older and it was just harder physically. 

Teresa posted this 2 weeks ago

We have 3.  Isn't that enough? haha I felt complete, but also looking at our finances and space.  It was just a sign. 

Kristina posted this 2 weeks ago

This is a great question... Motherhood is exhausting and beautiful all in one. I've always wanted a big family (I'm an only child) and I currently have two boys. I definitely want at least one more but I am torn because my dream has always been 4 but now that I have two I realize how much truly goes in to parenting. I don't have the answer, but would love to follow along!

Naomi posted this 31 August 2019

My second baby was a surprise, so I actually thought I was good with one and was on the fence about having a second. Well, after my second came I definitely knew I was done because I'm tired all the time. I just want some rest.

Gabby posted this 21 June 2019

When you know, you know. Never say never, but also say never if you know

Milena posted this 20 June 2019

I know that I'm done having kids because I've never wanted more than two kids. I wanted one boy and one girl and that's exactly what I got. Besides, the two I have drive me crazy enough. 😂 

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Jane posted this 20 June 2019

I think you are done when YOU feel you are done! If you want 7 kids then have 7 kids. If you only want 1 or 2 then be done. Its a personal choice.

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Melanie posted this 20 June 2019

Three was the cut off for me! It didnt matter the gender! lol

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Olivia posted this 18 June 2019

There are so many factors to this, and mostly it's about what feels good for your family. Honestly, for us, money was a big consideration. The cost of daycare in our area is out of control. Our house is comfortable for our family of four, and we could maybe add another kid to the mix and make that work, but it would be tight, and moving to a bigger house would mean having to leave the area that we love. That's not a sacrifice we're willing to make. We have two girls and people often ask if we're going to try for a boy, which I find really bizarre. There's no way of knowing that we would have a boy the next time around anyway, and we're very happy with the kids we have, regardless of their gender.

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Mary posted this 17 June 2019

I would honestly have 10 kids haha my husband would NOT, so that's how I know

Jane posted this 15 June 2019

ME TOO! Exact same, I always wanted at least two (I'm an only child and I was desperate for a sibling) but I thought I'd have more time between the two of them!  I go through stages where I think this is the craziest, hardest time so let's just keep going, but there are other times where I'm like, no I know my limits.  But I totally agree - there is a plan for our lives that we don't know, what is meant to be definitely will be.  Thank you for responding!

I may be the wrong person to answer this because I thought I was done after 1, then ended up having a second quite unexpectedly and now can't imagine life without her! She truly completed our family! Sometimes I think God, a higher power, fate, whatever you may believe in, knows better what we need than we do! 

Erin posted this 14 June 2019

I may be the wrong person to answer this because I thought I was done after 1, then ended up having a second quite unexpectedly and now can't imagine life without her! She truly completed our family! Sometimes I think God, a higher power, fate, whatever you may believe in, knows better what we need than we do! 

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