Fear of Pregnancy but want a baby...

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Harper posted this 14 March 2020

So we have started trying to conceive and I am terrified of everything to do with pregnancy and I didn't realize it until we started trying. All of the things that could go wrong with the baby or me...I get nauseous just thinking about it. 

I really feel like my anxiety is full on blocking us from getting pregnant.

What would you do? Therapy? Look into adoption/surrogacy? Tough it out?

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Samantha posted this 22 April 2020

I wasn't afraid of getting pregnant. But once I got pregnant, I was terrified than ever and had to deal with my anxiety. During the first few months, I thought of never wanting to get pregnant again because of the stress of always having to think if baby is doing well. But having a great support system, significant other, family and friends that were here to support me and share their experiences with me really helped a lot. Definitely talking to experts will help as well as the people who are ready to support you. You can do it! 

Sarah posted this 26 March 2020

I was extremely afraid of becoming pregnant. I wanted a baby so very bad, yet I was horribly scared of everything associated with pregnancy. One of the things that really helped me was when a friend reminded me that the female body was made to do this. Everything we need is within us and we are so much stronger than we know. It doesn't take away the anxiety but it was a good mantra to repeat to myself throughout the pregnancy!

Amanda posted this 17 March 2020

Therapy is always helpful, and remember your partner and you are a team! Always be open with them.

Whit posted this 17 March 2020

Oh man, I feel your pain! Honestly, during my first pregnancy I would try to notice strangers with kids and tell myself that if all these people around me could birth a child, I probably could too... and I did! But I definitely think therapy could be a great idea!

Brittany posted this 17 March 2020

I think there is always some sort of fear with every woman when it comes to going into labor, or if they will be okay and if the baby will be healthy. I don't think its something that you should tough out, talking to your OB or even a therapist might help ease your mind, but try to be open with your S.O they also are going through this process with you! Don't ever hold things in.

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Danna posted this 16 March 2020

I had the same fear, what could go wrong with the baby and me, what if I am not a good mother, the delivery process OMG.... My baby is one now and I can't imagine my life without her. Try meditation and talking with experts it helped me a lot.

Justine posted this 16 March 2020

I have some fears surrounding pregnancy but I think a lot of people experience that. If you're 100% not comfortable with it then absolutely do whats best for you. Its important to me to carry a child, I feel a space there I want to fill. But there are so many babies out there that need loving homes that if thats whats calling you GO FOR IT!

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Chrissy posted this 14 March 2020

Is it something specific you are worried about?  Like labor, etc.?  I'd recommend you talk to your doctor.  There are always risks.  But the rewards are amazing.  My first pregnancy was awful.  I had every symptom and complication I think there is.  But at the end of the day, I ended up with two beautiful babies.  Every bit of it was worth it.

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