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Do you suffer from mom guilt?

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Megan posted this 30 January 2019

Currently feeling guilty because my kids annoy me constantly and I just don't have the patience to spend time with them like I "should."  I do get quiet time and have hobbies I enjoy and friends to do things with. I just keep hoping this feeling will pass or maybe it's just the winter blues!

Do you have mom guilt?

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Summer posted this 08 February 2019

When I was working full time, I would get guilt that I was never around. I felt like the people keeping him had more time a week with him than me, and that he felt like I was never there. I would spend every chance I could with him, and by doing so started to pass on hanging out with other friends. 

You have to do whatever makes you the best mom to them, and what can make you the best of you when you are around them. There’s no perfect answer, and everyone feels guilt about something at some point. 

Dre posted this 15 May 2019

Yes, mom guilt COMPLETELY.  Even this morning I was out of the house working for just 2 hours at a library while my parents watched my child and when I met them back up for lunch, it felt like I had missed way more than 2 hours.  I agree.  We have to make the best of it and actually remember that being a mom is not our only role.  Even if you don't maintain employment, there are still other roles.

Karen posted this 17 May 2019

Mom guilt is SO real. I cry many times when my kids are at their grandparents just to have some time with myself or my husband. 

Noel posted this 17 May 2019

Yes after having my 3rd I feel that it became a lot worse. I have to constantly remind myself that I have to take care of myself so I can be here for my children. Self care is so important. 

Brianna posted this 18 May 2019

 If i work, if i dont work. If i do the housework instead of playing with them, if i play with them instead of doing housework. The mom guilt is never ending

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Ashley posted this 20 May 2019

I think we all feel guilty sometimes. It's totally normal. It's hard to keep everything in balance and still do what you want. For me it was a bit liberating to say no to things I really didn't want to do. A happier mom will be noticed by the kid as well.

Kayleigh posted this 09 June 2019

Yes...goes with the territory! I've learned to say no to things that don't get me closer to my goals...it's helped a lot! I work outside the home and on a freelance basis on the side, so It's tough to manage it all, but I do try to take time for myself too. A happy mom leads to happier kids!

Christie posted this 10 June 2019

I have mom guilt ALL THE TIME! I work full time, so my son sees everyone at daycare more than he sees me. I feel like as he ages and understands mommy is dropping him off at daycare for work, he may start to hate me. I would give anything to be a stay at home mom, but financially that is not an option!

heather posted this 12 September 2019

Everyday. i work full-time and although i am lucky enough to be able to get off (most of the time) for field trips and special events at school i still feel like i could be there more for them more. I wish i could be less tired and more enthusiastic to do things with them

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cara posted this 12 September 2019

The mom guilt is real with me. Its a constant struggle. It is an all day juggling act. Most days I feel like I am stretching myself in 55 different directions.

Briana posted this 12 September 2019

I recently went back to work and I'm feeling this really hard. Not working isn't really an option but not being able to be with him all the time is killing me.

 If i work, if i dont work. If i do the housework instead of playing with them, if i play with them instead of doing housework. The mom guilt is never ending

Briana posted this 12 September 2019

This is exactly what I'm feeling. I'm so scared he's going to think someone else is his safe space.  

I have mom guilt ALL THE TIME! I work full time, so my son sees everyone at daycare more than he sees me. I feel like as he ages and understands mommy is dropping him off at daycare for work, he may start to hate me. I would give anything to be a stay at home mom, but financially that is not an option!

Tulip posted this 16 September 2019

I'm a stay at home Mom --- with Mom guilt but thankfully its not chronic. However, it's nagging and I guess what has helped is getting better at managing my life and schedule and slowly, slowly seeing progress. Being a Mom requires so much and I remind myself that the guilt isn't productive. TIP: Make a list of the things you do well and focus on those things!

Heather posted this 16 September 2019

I am newly back to work and feel mom guilt hard. Although a little different, I understand your pain. No matter what, we as moms are set up to feel we can't do it all. My LO is 4 months old and the not being with him every single day and only seeing him when its basically time to wake up or go to bed is killing me.

Lauren posted this 16 September 2019

THIS. No matter what, we are not set up for success. Just do your best, mama.

 If i work, if i dont work. If i do the housework instead of playing with them, if i play with them instead of doing housework. The mom guilt is never ending

Mallory posted this 16 September 2019

I think mom guilt will always be there, I think there is so much pressure in society to be the perfect mom.  But I think the best thing you can do is just make sure your kids are happy, however that looks!

Jinny posted this 16 September 2019

I agree with you Mallory! Seriously, there is no escaping mom guilt. Perfection does not exist.

I think mom guilt will always be there, I think there is so much pressure in society to be the perfect mom.  But I think the best thing you can do is just make sure your kids are happy, however that looks!

Megan posted this 17 September 2019

I try to remind myself, and my husband often does lol, that I am the only one who MAKES myself or allows myself to feel guilty for not doing something a certain way or being enough. My best does not look like another mom's best. And it varies from day to day. Sometimes I feel like supermom. Other days I just don't want to get out of bed.

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Brittani posted this 17 September 2019

I feel you on that one Megan. Especially being pregnant again, and the exhaustion that comes with that, some days I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water. I just tell myself to "just keep swimming" haha

Anne posted this 17 September 2019

I've been trying to stay positive but of course sometimes the mom guilt creeps in.  Sometimes its more worry for me though, if i'm doing the best I can for my daughter.

Amanda posted this 18 September 2019

I have mom guilt and the baby isn't even here yet. I have guilt I'm not relaxing enough before I work 6 days a week I worry when she comes I wont be able to scale it back and become a good mom. I'm already feeling guilty i only have 8 weeks for maternity leave. 

Sucre posted this 23 September 2019

I feel guilty for all the things I know now that I wish I knew previously. Like I wish I could go back in time and give myself a speech. I guess my speech for today would be "enjoy this and don't be so hard on yourself." Guilt is unproductive!

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Candace posted this 23 September 2019

I am a stay at home mom and spend the majority of my time with my baby but still manage to feel guilt very often. I always feel like I should be spending more time with him or doing something different. I think that we all feel this way.

Sage posted this 24 September 2019

Yes, all the time! No matter what I do. Hang in there mama.

Karisa posted this 24 September 2019

Even as a mother, we are all individuals. We all NEED and require time for ourselves. While we give and give of ourselves to many everyday...our spouses, companions, our family, jobs, co-workers, our children, and so forth......we have the right to need some time to ourselves to "recoup" per say. I totally can relate and understand where you are coming from and yes I have also experienced the same guilt feelings for not having the patience I should at all times. I just try to breathe and step back and recollect and remind myself that I am doing my very best and that it enough and okay! 

Megan posted this 27 September 2019

I tried to hit reply Sucre, but it doesn't work. I love that you pointed out guilt is unproductive. I have been trying to be more present with my boys, especially soccer games and homework/studying. We've had some good times. Today I had a major headache so I definitely have not been productive. But that's ok for today. Tomorrow will be better.

Ann posted this 28 September 2019

Mommy guilt is such a real thing.  At least you recognize it.  There are a lot of people that don't do anything for their kids and they could care less. The fact that you care if you are in a bad mood with your children sounds like you are better than you think.

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Kassie posted this 29 September 2019

I think everybody goes through this from time to time.  Maybe you just need a day to yourself.  If you can get a sitter, maybe try it and see if it recharges your battery a little. Hang in there. 

Megan posted this 29 September 2019

Ann, that is such a sweet thing to say thank you. It does make me feel better!

Liyana posted this 24 November 2019

This feeling comes and goes, like all others. It's so completely normal. Just remember you are doing what you can.

Kim posted this 18 December 2019

Guilt is real but give yourself a break. I work 60-70 hours a week in the summer but have a lot more free time with them in the winter. Then in the winter I feel bad because I'm not making as much money. It's a big guilt circle. 😂 

luisa posted this 22 December 2019

i had it when i stayed home and i have it now that i work, doesn't stop and I've just accepted it and as long i feel like I'm doing my best I'm not worried

Gina posted this 14 January 2020

Yes! I feel guilty if I work, I feel guilty if I don't. It never ends.

Kymere posted this 14 January 2020

Yup! I think all moms do.

Ellen posted this 15 January 2020

I completely feel the same way. Sometimes I just can't wait for nap time for the kids. I don't think the feeling will pass until they are out of your house and wish they come back. I try to schedule something with my friends at least once a month. I also tried to make new friends that are moms my kid's age so we can have the kids play while us moms watched on the side and talked.  

Esther posted this 20 January 2020

I feel it for my oldest. It has to be horrible to have all the attention for years and then go to very little. I feel as if I'm not giving enough time to her and then I worry that I'm not getting enough "me" time and I'll explode. Finding the balance in it all is very hard. 

Elena posted this 19 February 2020

Yes, I can relate. I feel as mom's will have "mom guilt" no matter what. It's just a part of what we do.

Taisha posted this 19 February 2020

Yup, I have the mom guilt too. Does it ever go away?

Hannah posted this 19 February 2020

You're a human person with needs. You don't need to feel guilty for being a person.

Sam posted this 20 February 2020

Nope! To be a good mom, you also need to still take care of yourself. I get a facial once a month, I get my nails done, and I work out almost daily. It's the right amount of me time that I need and in return I feel happier!

Mary posted this 20 February 2020

Yes. I suffer from mom guilt.But other posts are right, we do need to take care of oursleves too. I just have to figure out how to find time for that.

Nicole posted this 21 February 2020

Yes, I feel bad when I'm at work and my son is at daycare. I'd love to be a stay at home mom, but I can't!

Bolli posted this 17 February 2021

I believe that you should find some positive aspects in this and try to love them with all their bad sides

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