19 October 2019
I would suggest finding a local Foster & Adoptive Parent Association and really connect with your local foster and adoptive families. The big thing is not approaching it like it's your Plan B. Some people do, and as a result, make the kids in foster care feel like a consolation prize. I used to work in Foster Home Licensing, and now have many people I consider dear friends who I worked with who have gone on to adopt. And yes, they are just as fiercely protective of their babies as I am of mine that I birthed. But that's not everybody. Unfortunately, we also saw our fair share of adoptions result in abandonment because the parents decided they didn't want to have to deal with the challenges that come with adopting a child out of the foster care system (quite common once the teen years roll around).
As Nadia pointed out above, if you are adopting (especially from the foster care system) you could be signing up for long-term challenges, and you need to be 100% certain that you can commit to advocating and meeting that child's needs as you would a child you gave birth to. Everybody I know that has adopted has dealt with/is currently dealing with some type of medical issue, developmental delay, emotional delay, chemical exposure, etc. This may not be the same if you are able to afford a private adoption. If you really want to get a feel for whether or not adoption is right for you and your family, the best way to do that is to talk to those who are currently living it in your community. They will also be familiar with the agencies you need to talk with.